"I am my thoughts, my feelings, my actions and more. I am a daughter, a sister, a lover and a friend. I can be whoever I want to be."
It was interesting to read how you define yourselves. For some of you it was what you enjoy doing, how you perceive what someone else thinks of you. Some of you couldn’t verbalise who you are, perhaps you’re not sure? Some of you have a very self critical streak, and some know me better than to give a straight answer my questions.
Charlie is exactly right. Who you are is your thoughts, your feelings, your actions. You are your words and your beliefs.
You are all of those things, but you are also defined by who you associate with. These people have an influence over you, whether it is your parents, your friends, your siblings, your colleagues, your boss, your lover, all of these elements create who YOU are. You have final say as to how they affect you.
It works in two ways, you choose the elements of their character or personality that you admire, and you create them for yourself. The opposite is also true, you may see traits you dislike and you make an effort to remove them from your character. This is why the saying “Kids are always worse than their parents” isn’t true. We all have a choice; we do not have to be like our parents, or worse as they say.
We are not defined by our job, by our aesthetic, by what other people think of us, or by what we do in our free time. These things reflect who we are.
This begs the questions – What qualities do you see in the people around you? Which ones do you like? Which ones don’t you like? Which ones can you see in yourself?
In essence,
Who do you want to be?
7 comments:
I dont think anyone should be striving to be something else. It should come naturally without working towards it.
If you were to become something else, i feel you would soon miss what you were. You don't know what you got til its gone.
this is such a beautiful post.
and I really enjoyed Charlie, and everyone else's answers.
I'm not sure who I am.
I'm forever growing, changing, finding myself.
I like people who smile genuinely, lots and lots. I like funny people, because humour isn't something you can fake.
Who do I want to be?
I want to be 'me'.
More than anything, I want to want to be me.
If that makes sense.
I want to be someone that makes other people smile.
Bambola,
this made me think a lot
about everthing.
I'm a little lost right now,
so thankyou.
All my love,
x
Despite all my boyfriend has been through in the last five years (death and divorce) I admire his sense of humour through everything. His ability to laugh still, especially at himself. His strength through grief is something I both hope I never have to have, and that I can embody.
I want to be the person who knows that she is acting according to her own feelings and thoughts at all times, that her mistakes and successes are actually hers.
I don't really see this as a trait or qualities but something that get's under my skin about living in the south. It is mostly bible belts, not open to new ideas, homo-phobics. I just get really tired of it. I completely understand everyone has their own beliefs and I respect that. I just wish they weren't so closed minded.
Now in the south I love that people are nice and will help you. Something that I love that you don't see anywhere else is; When we have a funeral and the cop leads the cars to the cemetery, Every car that sees it/passes will pull over, stop, and wait for the group to pass. It's how we pay our respects.
I've got my; worrisome, caring qualities from being around my grandmother and I wouldn't trade them for anything.
Do you realize the much needed self-discovery journey you are sending me on? Thank you.
I want to be a citizen of the world. And a free spirit. I want to be at peace....
I want to change lives and be happy. I want to make people smile.
I want to grow but never grow up.
I want to be a social entrepreneur, because that would mean making people happy AND making money.
I want to be a good influence, and someone you would smile upon thinking of..
xx
I felt a bit shy when I saw my comment up the top, a bit surprised but honored that you chose to use my words. I think that what you added is exactly the sentiment behind what I said, and what you described more fully was very eloquent. It was quite strange because I was just recently asked this question at a workshop - and one of the points that was brought up is that so often people think they are defined by what they do as a job that people always ask first
"What do you do?" when instead we should be asking the more important question
"Who are you?"
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