Self Love

This needs to be said. Needs to be written.

Men/Women/Partners do not define you.

Your happiness does not depend on what you have.

It depends on you.

It depends on whether you are happy with who you are & what you stand for.

Until you can stand in front of a mirror, completely naked, and consider yourself beautiful (inside & out) will you be able to find someone worth keeping.

EVERYONE has flaws.

You can pick yourself to pieces. Go ahead. Don't like my feet, my thighs, by tummy, my arms, my hands, my nose. (These are all mine)

Where does it get you?

No where. By the end of it, you just feel miserable.

If all you do is look in the mirror and see the flaws, the only information you brain is getting is negative thoughts. If you don't like you, why should anyone else?

If you don't like your hands - do something about it. For me, it requires moisturising ALL day & sleeping with cotton gloves. I've tried & it's not something I'm prepared to do. So I've accepted that my hands are different to everyone elses.

If you don't like your weight - lose it. If you're not willing to put in the effort to lose it, then learn to love it. I'm an AU12. I've tried losing weight - but if I'm honest - I'm just too lazy. One group of friends are all 8-10 & tiny. I'm not tiny. I have bones, I have boobs & I have a caboose. I'd rather have all of those & the curves that go with it, than be skinny.

Your flaws make you, you.

When you look in the mirror, stop looking at all the flaws. Stop hating yourself.

Look at yourself as a whole person, that's how the world sees you. That's how the world loves you.

It's just waiting for you to LOVE YOU too!

Until you do (sorry to break it to you) you're going to struggle to find someone else who will.

I honestly can't say it enough.

When you realise how perfect you are, just like that, the partner you so desperately wanted may just drop by. What you may also find, is that when you do eventually love you, that longing for a partner might disappear.

Don't think "Oh how would you know?"

I've been there.

I was the chub, nerd, kinda odd girl at school. Wasn't given the time of day. I didn't really like me & that made me desperate for approval. Usually of the male variety. It meant that if a guy started paying me attention, even if he wasn't my type, I would convince myself that I liked him too.

2008 was a momentus year for my own personal growth, and after a number of mind altering occurrences I turned into this me.

And I like me.

Now it's your turn.


Bambola x