There are different situations in your life that will force you out of your comfort zone.
You know the 'line' analogy? "There's a line & you don't cross it"? There lines are everywhere, the biggest being around your comfort zone. Is this a "duh!" moment?
Something that happens to almost everyone, is falling out. You're great friends with a person, but something changes & suddenly you feel like their behaviour is pushing you right up near that line.
You don't want to fall out, you want things to go back to normal, so you try to walk back to the centre circle, your comfort zone. As time goes on, you find you've managed to end up close to that line once again.
I'd like to challenge the thought that it's a line. I think it's more of a wall. The size determined by the type of relationship & how you feel about that person, how much has been shared.
As time progresses, you realise things aren't going to be the same. Human nature makes us hold on to what we know, hold on to our comfort zone, so we choose not to cross the line, not to climb over that wall.
If you choose not to climb over, you're just getting yourself hurt. The situation forcing you time & time again to kiss the bricks you're up against.
You fight as much as you can until you're sick of being sidled up against the wall, living in a space that's no longer your comfort zone.
Your only choice is to climb over, leave the old behind. But the wall can be high, the wall can be wide, it takes time to get up & over. Once you do and you've gotten your strength back you realise there is a whole other world on the other side.
It's a new comfort zone.
"There's a wall that can't be crossed, but sometimes, we get forced over & we have to just start over on the other side."
Have you been in this situation? Did it take you long to recover?
I have. It took me a year.
Bambola x
9 comments:
beautiful post and so true. You have a really great outlook and in my negative state, I needed to read this. It's crazy too because sometimes it feels scarier to cross the wall but you definitely do more harm to yourself by not crossing it. I hope this makes sense :) Thank you!
Yes yes yes. I know what you're talking about here. I'm too busy right now to write a proper response though. My thoughts need some percolation time.
very wise words. I think we all have had a line or like you said Wall we had to cross.
wow this resonates with me really deeply! i had a best friend for eleven years that i suffered a "falling out" with a couple of months ago... in some ways i feel i am still falling from the wall, and in other ways i feel over it.
mostly, i just want to fill her empty void. i want to replace her - but in all honesty, i don't think anyone call fill that spot again.
could* not call. woops!
wow, I think most people can relate to this post. Very deep and heartfelt Liv xxx
Lovely Liv :)
Is it wrong that I have no lines?? No barriers? I don't have a comfort zone (now this means I am either permanently UNcomfortable or permanently comfortable. with everything).
My goodness, yes. It almost tore me up until I realized that hanging with certain people hurts you more than helps. I'm actually the happiest since then and never want to go back across that wall.
RYC: I am the biggest cheese fanatic you'll meet. The cheese mongers know me at Whole Foods because I'm there every other day learning (tasting!) about their cheese selection.
What's you favorite cheese? Have you tried Parrano? It's cheaper than most gourmet cheese and have a salty flavor.
Haha I'm a freak.
After a while of being out of your comfort zone, wherever you've ended becomes your new comfort zone
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