The only type of pain you should get from love is your heart aching because it's bursting with joy, happiness, confidence and all those other gushy, cute, gaggable emotions. That's it.
If love hurts - get out of there. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Recognise it when it happens & don't continue to let yourself be hurt.
That's not to say relationships aren't hard, or they don't require effort, because they are and they do. They just shouldn't hurt is all.
P.S. Bare with me, just processing some stuff. Hopefully not too many more over-emotional posts about love and the like. =) x
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I agree. People go around saying love is hard, it should be a battle blah blah. That's bull and those people just haven't known love the way it should be (which truly makes me sad for them and I don't mean that at all in a derogatory way).
While LIFE itself brings struggles and love goes through rough patches, in no way should LOVE be DEFINED by pain.
I never understood that either.
When I look at my husband I know love because life brings pain, but love makes that pain better. It shouldn't be the other way around.
Another situation when love hurts:
when you love someone so much that whatever hurts him/her, hurts you as much.
But, yeah, I see your point.
Oh my dear, you sound very down!
I think love can hurt though, and still not be something you can give up. If you fight and one of you says something mean in the heat of the moment, that will hurt the other person FAR more than anyone else in the world saying the same thing, because you love that person and badness is so much harder to handle from someone you're giving so much to!
But, you're right that love shouldn't make you miseable. The ups should FAR outweigh the downs!
I will "bare" with you.
Love does hurt at times, sadly. I think it only makes us stronger, and it seems you have become a lot stronger and more guarded about love, which is good. No one wants to get hurt.
xx ali
I complteley agree with you. Love shouldn't hurt, it should make you feel fulfilled and happy.
Thank you. I keep falling into this trap that I set up for myself in regards to this kind of situation. I'm trying to get out, and it's just nice to have little helping reminders along the way.
xox
Cat
It hurts only because all I want to do is leave. I don't know where to or how. But..I want to leave and it's scary
That is definitely well said. I so agree upon that quote you just posted. So many girls let themselves get hurt by their boyfriends and they don't know how to get out of it because it's so hard to accept that they're actually treating them that way - I'd say if he loves you he wouldn't hurt you - easy & done! But there are many obstacles relationships go through which hurting is one of them - if the issue is too hard to bare with then yeah it's best to walk away. depending on what it is. I hope things work out for you - smile you deserve the best!
Process away, chicky.
well said girl....
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